Kelewele, Sex and Pink October

"October is the perfect month for manifestation of your wants and desires, if you actively pursue your dreams and enjoy the journey with all its obstacles, rewards will be found. " - Thrive On News Free Spiritual Magazine

According to the e-book, Empower yourself with color psychology, with a personality color pink, you have a maternal instinct, with a need to protect and take care of others. You also have a need for this caring to be reciprocated as you do tend to neglect yourself in your determination to take care of the needs of others. You are very much in touch with your femininity - this includes men who are in touch with their feminine side. You are romantic and sensual and sensitive. With your optimistic and positive outlook on life, you see the good in everyone. You are methodical and organized, although you can sometimes be rather flippant when the immature girly side of pink appears. You are refined, reserved, calm and non-violent which may give the impression of shyness.

The challenge for you is to become more self-reliant and to learn to love yourself, then love and acceptance will be returned to you multiplied. Your deepest need is to be accepted and loved unconditionally. Okay enough for October and Personality pink. 
 
Alright, to my reason for writing this simple message to you; here are my five simple rules for life. Wake up early. Work harder than you did yesterday. Never go more than three days without exercise. Make time to read everyday. And finally, eat "kelewele" whenever you get the chance. For those of you who don't know, kelewele is simply fried ripe plantain spiced up with pepper and ginger and cut in tiny French-fries-like sizes. It's a sweet delicacy taken in between meals and best served with cold beverages, suitably Coca-Cola. Lest I forget, our pink personality enjoys relaxation and good taste in all forms. Chill, it hurts no one. Life has to be enjoyed sometimes.

October has been good. And like many people I'm attracted to the color pink.  I like to do all the activities in my five rules too, especially reading and exercising- and by exercising I mean jogging and skipping. Sex. The most dreaded word. Haha. I like to hear it and to discuss it too. But frankly, I do believe in the unique sense of emotional touch of pleasure that it has to offer. For this reason, you may find me mostly geared towards discussions about it. I hear it's a thing only for married couples. Let's just pretend that's what it is and move on.  More importantly, I want you to know that I am currently reading fifty shades of grey, an erotic romantic novel by E. L. James. I'm just loving every sense of it. The book talks about a romantic affair between two characters: Ann Steele, a young shy virgin, and Christian Grey, a rich domineering sex freak. The story got me so full of suspense and intrigue so much that within one day,  I was done with Chapter seven. You should read it too since it talks about love and sex from an all new perspective. (Errm... that's if you are above 18 years and married). For instance,  you would be provoked with the question, what will you do when you are presented with a document containing rules of engagement and an oath of secrecy before engaging in a sexual escapade? Weird, isn't it? 

Copy this: October, Pink, Sex, and everything in between this post may not resonate anything to several people. However, it may have a direct or indirect correlation with some of us and who we are. By clicking the link to read this, I think you must be the sort of yearning, curious, determined souls who will not relent in any pursuit in life. Let's keep at that fire. Anyway, I'm glad we're here... At the end of October 2016. Work life and personal life balance may not have gone so well, yet I still believe in the rewarding nature of this month. Cheers!

For those of us who think sex is a "bad" bitchy kind of behavior, maybe you should think twice. It's almost like an everyday activity, if not for you, for most people across the universe. That being said, I will encourage that you do well to be in tune with your body, emotions, and sexuality whether or not you are sexually active. Do not be caught unaware. How old are you anyway? P.S. Parental guidance is advised. Be reminded that I'm no sex advocate. I'm just an open minded young woman who enjoys expressing my view extensively on relevant issues in life, of which sex isn't an exception. Sex with or without condoms,  gentle or rough, in the open or indoors, excessive or calculated, is of importance to your being and to your partner as well. You cannot be ignorant about it neither can you fake anything. Besides, what's wrong with being confident about who you really are and what you enjoy best? A part of growing up is being in control of who you are and who you are going to be in all aspects of life, including sex. 

Embrace your uniqueness and accept your ugliness before anyone else can. If your personality is pink, then maybe we share equal life patterns . Whichever, October is the new pink. By the way, December is my birth month. Smiles. Dear November, please be good. More life, goodness, pinkness, sexiness, and a lot of kelewele to our plates. We wish for you to be giving of an unlimited abundance from expected and unexpected sources. And if you must bring us anything else, give us love, love, and more love. 

I like how a friend puts the whole sex talk into perspective, "Being a virgin in the 21st century is not easy. Sometimes I feel like trying sex just once. I know I am a sex addict in the making and my husband will be blessed to have me for a wife". Let me know your thoughts about this month and what sex and sex talks generally mean to you.

Justica Anima
Adjeianima@gmail.com
Switstica.blogspot.com

There Is More To Sex Than Just Orgasm

I've heard people argue that the one thing that drew Adam and Eve from the garden of Eden isn't actually apple but sex. While people say that sexual activity is for pleasure, others also posit that it involves healing, communication, and spiritual bonding. Different  views have been raised about what age and time is fit for sexual engagements but this article will not try to delve into any of such limitations. We shall just try to understand why sex is way more important than just having a pleasurable moment. Today's world has made the act more liberal so much that just anyone gets up and engages in sex without understanding why they are doing it. Understanding is very vital in any area of life. 

He is too big. She is too tight. He ejaculates pretty quick. She is too dry. It was one of the most boring encounters ever. It was a painful experience. There was no real involvement from her. He was only in it to satisfy himself. These are some of the conversations we hear daily from people's sexual escapades, and I must say it can be pathetic to hear some of these remarks. Recently,  I was at Joy FM, an Accra based English speaking radio station, on the show called "Late Night Express", discussing about 'Sex in books' and sex in general. The following pointers came out of our about 2 hours engagement. Let's talk about sex... 

Give it your all

Better safer than never. If you must indulge, give it your best shot. Ladies like to be massaged, kissed, caressed, and turned on. Guys, No need rushing. It's not a car race. Guys also like to be touched and played with so ladies take note. Choose the right environment, time or place to set the mood for love making. Entice each other with sex texting throughout the day and hold no boundaries when it comes to foreplay. Oral sex is a sure thing. Both parties should take turns exploring one another's temples. Ladies, guys love ladies who are not boring at it. In the 'red room' of pleasure, there are no limitations.

Let your bodies be in rhythm

You will need to trust in the magic of your bodies. Listen  to it as the rhythm between the two of you flow. Do not hold back the flow. Moan. Groan. Scream if you must. Let the neighbors know that, yes, you are enjoying what you are doing. Allow for free and momentary touches of the most awesome spots, the nipples, navel, neck, everywhere. Enjoy each step as your partner takes you on a smooth ride. Enjoy each other's company and do not rush things. Take things slow, then build up pace gradually. When the best shot comes, dance to the music it plays. Entice one another, or tease if you can. Explode with passion and focus on making your partner (especially the lady) happy. Excite each other through creative ways such as ice cream spread, chocolate exchange, candle lights, romantic rose-oil massages, you name it. Spice things up with a sweet tune from your favorite Playlist accompanied by some white or red wine. You've got to love this. 

Communicate

Talk about your needs, your hurts, your joy. Communicate your expectations and experiences with your partner. While in the act, tell each other enticing words. Speak into their ears. Say something silly or funny to your lover's hearing. Allow the words to do their part of stimulation too. Communication makes the both of you comfortable and you enjoy each other's company better. Silence will mean not knowing what your partner is going through so talk to them and know if you're on the right path. Listen to your master and follow their rules. By whatever means, talk before, during and after the act.

These keys should guide you. Sex should not be boring. It's meant for pleasure, satisfaction and fulfillment. Behold your partner with great love and respect while engaging in an uninterrupted smooth journey to the world of passion. Sex,  if done right, can be healthy and create a positive impact on one's physical, emotional and psychological well being. Will love to hear your suggestions and feedback on what an effective sex means to you. 

Justica Anima 

Adjeianima@gmail.com 

Switstica.blogspot.com 

My Three Best Writing Techniques

You write so well...
I love reading your blog posts because you keep it simple and engaging. I follow most of your writings because I think they are amazing.
How do you write such interesting stories?
What inspires you to write such stories?
You are one of the few  writers that I read from and never get bored. Your writings are just so brief and straight to the point.

These are just a few comments I come across from time to time as a writer. To most of my readers, I serve them such interesting pieces that they can't seem to get enough of. I have most people wanting to read from me often and have subscribed to my blog in order not to miss a story by me. You see, as a writer, you need more of these enthusiasts to keep you writing. However, there may be criticisms that need to be taken in good faith as they are also forms of feedback that tell you the reader's concerns. In a brief spur of the moment, I would love to share with you a few steps to take in order to create amazing content to get your reader's attention and engagement. Remember, you are not writing for yourself but for the masses who can later on become your fans. Without people getting interested in what you are writing about, you may just save your energy for something else. So how do we achieve becoming so good at writing creative pieces?

Formulating the idea

The first step to writing a great piece is to generate a nice content for your write up. You do not want to write something which will not grasp the reader's attention. It is therefore important to create content which appeals to the reader's interest. Look for story ideas that most people will be drawn to because it touches on what's happening in general. I for instance choose story ideas from people's conversation in the bus or anywhere around me, television discussions, events and places which are trendy, incidences which occur, or from stories which are making the news. Depending on what information is available or unavailable out there, try as much to capitalize on it to create good content for readers. By focusing on getting majority to read your posts, you should shy aware from regular story ideas that most people already talk about. For example, I may choose to right about why homosexuality is good by adding a different dimension and twist to the subject matter. This will definitely draw people's attention since it has a headline and a storyline that most people will want to find more about. People are also easily drawn to relationship, money, success and healthy living, and therefore creating ideas from those areas are also relevant. So you see, writing is all about grasping all the attention and focus on your stories.

Writing catchy stories

The first step draws us to this next step on how to write effectively. Never underestimate the power of creativity. People are easily drawn to new styles and ways of doing things and writing is not exceptional. By formulating great content, you need to focus on building up a great story that will keep readers reading till the very end of your write up. It is not enough to draft your story by knowing what you want to write about. Writing the whole material in a particular style is very important. Depending on the people you want to write to, using simple language and engaging style is always important. The story should not be "raw". Adding value, taste and flavor is a vital key to successfully knocking your reader's head off. By this I mean you must be able to make the reader asking and coming for more. It does not matter which style you intend to use, but make sure your readers love you at the end of your story. Let them experience the 'wow' moment at some point. Give them something to remember in the story. This is necessary because there may be a lot of words in one material yet one exciting paragraph, sentence or phrase alone should give the reader the stimulation they need. Try using jokes, expressions, scenarios and a few jargons where necessary, to highlight a particular point you are trying to make. This will give you the content that readers will love to read over and over again.

Keeping a journal

All practice is good because it perfects every skill. Keeping a journal helps you keep on your toes. For most writers, it may be a small notebook or notepad where they pour out random ideas that come to them during the day. Some of these ideas are later on turned into great stories that keep everyone wondering how it was done. Keeping a journal is like keeping a diary. You get the chance to keep your thoughts in writing. This will in a way help you sharpen your skills on a regular basis. Most beginners may find this technique useful because it can be a way of sharing your message with people while allowing them to assess your writing. When I give out my journal to people to read, the feedback I get helps me reform my writing. There is the opportunity for spell checks, punctuation and language corrections, and also writing style formulation. Nobody just gets up and write. For you to be good at it, you need to be prepared for it. Why not get a writing pad today and keep all your poems, short stories, essays and articles in it. Someday,  you should be proud to share something from your journal with the world.

I'm glad to have shared this with you. I hope proves useful and applicable. Please don't forget to hit me up with comments and email messages in regard to this post. I would love to hear some of your best writing techniques too. All the best in your writing life.

Justica Anima
Adjeianima@gmail.com
Switstica.blogspot.com

Hot Issues: Guys Don't Like To Date Poor Women

"I don't like to date a poor lady", Smart blurted out in our chatty conversation. "Poor ladies don't bring anything to the table" he continued. He confessed that dating poor women who only demand for money is what is making most men financially bankrupt. Why date a poor woman whom you cannot mutually benefit from financially? The rich chicks tend to be more loveable than the poor ones, seemed to be our main point of the argument  which was joined in by two other men.

According to the other parties, they will date a rich lady because they are more giving and receptive of love. The most annoying part of dating poor women is that they ask for basically every need of theirs to the extent that they can demand for transportation fare as low as 2 cedis which they could manage to pay by themselves. This created an out roar of laughter among us. High level of dependency. Another issue of concern for these guys. Also, a different category of 'broke' ladies, according them, are those who buy boxer shorts and vest as birthday presents for their partners instead of taking them out for dinner or throwing them a surprise birthday party. 

I find this revelation a bit worrisome because in my earlier meeting with some female friends of mine, the I-dont-date-poor-women discussion came up and my friends were furious about it. Vera established that the recent thing in town is that when a guy sees you and starts questioning your career and which home you come from, it should raise an alarm because such ones are mostly gold diggers and not real lovers. It was not surprising,however,  that the young men I was conversing with attested to some of these pointers raised by my girl friends as their major focus of concern when choosing a woman. "What flawed criteria for choosing a partner?",  I thought to myself. So the question is, what makes a young woman appear poor in the eyes of a man?

The general idea of guys towards women are blunt if not brilliant these days than ever. Per my understanding, a woman must also be giving and not always at the receiving end. She must be smart and intelligent, capable of making sound decisions and bringing reasonable ideas to the table. She must be beautiful and from a good home where she is taught virtues of honor and sacrifice. A woman who cannot sacrifice for her man is very poor and needs not be shown love. They joked about the fact that some women turn their back in request of transportation fare while in the bus with  their boyfriends. They questioned that what stops such a person from paying for the fare for herself and her man? On the other hand, I find that point debatable because from my study of manners, it is not polite for a lady to pay for something when with a gentleman (unless there is the dire need to do so). That alone, I learnt, could pierce his ego. Therefore hearing this tickled me a bit.

For some guys, if you are a woman, don't ask or request for anything from them. Rather, let them shower you love and support at their own pace and will. Demanding women appear poor and vulnerable in their sight. This sounded quite suppressive to me. But who am I, mere mortal, to sound the noise about my frustrations? Ladies, what the men are saying is simple. Work hard and earn your own money and they would love you to bits. For them, it is a give and take affair. But then again I ask, what if this power of self actualization keeps the woman from being submissive as should be? Oga, that one na who cause am? (Sir, who caused it?)

Let the battle continue. The war against money, power, and love. Share with me your thoughts on this one.

Justica Anima 

Adjeianima@gmail.com 

Switstica.blogspot.com 

These Few Things I Discovered About Myself Will Interest You

"The biggest most beautiful blessing in my life are the people in it" - Justica Anima

I am saying this with pride that my friends and family are lucky to have me because I radiate positive energy. The most important thing to me is that I put my all into everything. That way I get the most out of life and learn from each experience. I am a powerful woman, who knows her worth and works hard to make the world a better place for others. 

When I fall, I fall hard. The one who gets my heart will be the luckiest person alive because I always strive to make loved ones feel like the most special people in the world. Just like the rest of us, I want to live a happy and fulfilled life. I try to listen to my heart because it knows me and my desires better than anyone.My heart wants loyalty, I want to be surrounded by people I can trust blindly and who understand me without words. 

I'm a doer and an adventurer who wants to travel the whole world. I have a zest for life and I sometimes fear that my ambitions might be too big. In spite of that, I never give up on my dreams and that makes me a strong personality.

My nightmare is Loving someone who doesn't deserve it because my love is deep and pure. I love with my whole heart and give everything I have. This makes me a bit vulnerable to getting hurt and that's what I'm afraid of. However, I would never hesitate to give less than 100% of my love.

Friends tell me they appreciate me for my honesty and they try to help me in difficult situations. That's why I mostly share my greatest fear with them and show them what's really going on with me. Sometimes I'm in tune with nature, other times I'm just me. 

I know the devil is in the details so I strive to make decisions based on facts which, I think, makes me rational and logical. I am typically Thankful and Incredible and easily make new friends. I'm also great at focusing on a task and working with others to make sure it gets done well and on time. I appear knowledgeable and I think that's one of the reasons friends turn to me for guidance and advice.

I try to live a beautiful life and have made so many amazing experiences. Loved ones say I inspire them on a daily basis and that I seem to master every challenge life throws at me with ease. Well, it's not easy but I try. Each day for me is an opportunity that I cannot afford to pass me by. 

I believe my future self will find true love and achieve success in my career. I will use my Self-motivation and Assertiveness to strike a balance between my personal and work life. This means I will be able to properly enjoy the fruits of my labor, and spend quality time making beautiful memories. I'm glad you read, which means I will be with you in my future. See you there! 

Justica Anima 

Adjeianima@gmail.com 

Switstica.blogspot.com 

Is God Good All the Time?

Deuteronomy 7:22 And the LORD thy God will put out those nations before thee by little and little: thou mayest not consume them at once, lest the beasts of the field increase upon thee.

Billy Graham's wife once said she is happy God never answered most of her prayers because she would not have been married to her husband but perhaps someone else. "He is a God of wrong timing", a friend exclaimed when I posed the question. No! He cannot be wrong because scriptures say he makes all things beautiful in his own time.

So many times we pray and ask God for answers to so many things and there seem to be silence. We watch on as our beloved relatives die on the sick bed and wonder if God is watching or not. We sometimes wonder why a good God will watch a family or even a child go hungry. Also, a nation gets destroyed by war and God still looks on...

Some people argue that God does not condone laziness and therefore that is the reason why there is no food for a lazy man. They even reference God's instruction for man to learn from the ant and gather during the plentiful season so that there will be enough to feed on during the dry seasons. Hunger is therefore a result of a  miscalculated life. Certain parts of the world are also peaceful because of the attitudes of the people to stay calm and to institute policies and systems that establish peace.

Interestingly, it is intriguing to know that God sometimes declares war. There were many instances in the Bible where God was consulted before a war and He mostly confirmed and reassured victory for the people. Let's consider these Bible quotations below.

" And David enquired at the LORD, saying, Shall I pursue after this troop? shall I overtake them? And he answered him, Pursue: for thou shalt surely overtake them, and without fail recover all." 1 Samuel 30:8

" Therefore David enquired of the LORD, saying, Shall I go and smite these Philistines? And the LORD said unto David, Go, and smite the Philistines, and save Keilah. 1 Samuel 23:2

Some misfortunes of man, however, as pervasive as they may be, cannot be related to God. These are self imposed problems which are accumulated through unplanned, selfish, and reckless living. God gave man the audacity and power to live and make sound decisions in life. Not every mishap can be related to God, some are self driven but in some way, God gets credited for it. Why? Because we believe he is in control of everything concerning us.

I could go back and forth on the discussion of whether or not God is good always. The key lesson we must deduce here is that God first loved us. He is loving and will not hesitate to chastise those whom he loves. However, he never forsakes his people. So start living a purpose driven life and expect to receive good things in your life. The starting point is you. If you are good to yourself, most things will feel good to you and for you. You will get fed if you really want to. You will stay healthy if you decide to, and you will be wealthy whenever and whichever way you want to. You only need to be in tune with your physical, emotional, spiritual well being.

God is good all the time, and all the time God is good. We often hear or say this but have we stopped to ask if it's really true? Let me leave you to think it through and share your thoughts with me in the comment box or via email. It will be great to hear from you. Keep living!

Justica Anima
Adjeianima@gmail.com
Switstica.blogspot.com

Mapping The Limits of Fashion on GIJ Campus

                                           Writer: Phyliss N. L. Lamptey 
  

The widely recognized prestigious school of communication studies in the Sub-Sahara, the Ghana Institute of Journalism (GIJ) is making news once again regarding the Rector’s open declaration of a ban on the wearing of mini-skirts and shorts. This declaration of the Rector, Dr. Wilberforce S. Dzisah, made on the 23rd of September, 2016 under the 16th Matriculation ceremony for freshmen for the 2016/2017 academic year, has attracted a lot of media attention to the institute. There has been various publications in print media concerning the Rector’s statement while interviews have been granted to some students and staff of the Institution.
                    

One may wonder, what has really aroused this open declaration by the Rector himself after years of having this issue linger around? Is management now awake from its deep slumber and if so what or who startled it out of sleep? Is it a decision arrived at from genuine concern or are there external forces applying overly intolerable pressure to the neck of management? Is this resolve a nine-day wonder or one that will really last till eternity? These are questions yet to be answered, some of which need immediate responses and others that will need  time to tell. 
                 

I do not need to be a guy or a male lecturer or a proud alumnus who deems it fit that the image of the school be held in high esteem in order to express my sentiments about this canker of indecent dressing among the students of GIJ. I may be a Student leader or just a lay student with no extra responsibilities but let’s call a spade a spade. I have been personally appalled, in my past 3 years of stay in GIJ, by the way some students, especially the “ladies” dress to campus. Some of them can actually attract a headache, trust me. I indicated them as “Ladies" because there is a lot that goes into calling a female a lady. To me,  lady is a female who has courtesy, where courtesy here covers polite language and intonation of speech, decently dressing to cover the vital parts of the body which could be seductive, as well as your mannerisms and the way you carry yourself about, making a conscious effort not to flaunt your body around when walking and avoiding making a public spectacle of yourself in every way possible.
                        

 GIJ is a university but I think some of us need to be constantly reminded that it also couples as a specialized university and if you don’t know what that means let me educate you a bit on it. A Specialized University implies that when you pass through GIJ and graduate, the world expects you to reek of excellent communication like a drunkard will reek of alcohol on any given day if encountered. You are being trained to become the professional communicator that the world will grow to revere and be unable to do away with. If that is the case, why not start psyching yourself and emulating the life of a professional now instead of living a careless life on campus in the name of socializing only to later take time off after school to rebrand and reshape your views and thinking of the world to suit what is expected of you. Yes, I may sound harsh or too emotional at this point but seriously I see indecent dressing to lectures/campus as careless and reckless living.
             

Careless and reckless because you don’t come to school indecently dressed and expect the male students, lecturers and staff to turn a blind eye to you. The point is, are you in school to learn and work hard to graduate with a deserving class or you are in to receive flattering words and deceptive lies from the ‘guys’ or seduce the male lecturers and staff in order to be awarded underserving grades. If the latter is your aim, then of what substance would you be to the society and the world at large when all is said and done.

                                Photo credit: Campus_gij/ Instagram 
     

As a Public Relations (PR) student, you are taught that “image is everything” and if indecent dressing puts a dent on the image or first impression creation of an individual then one can only imagine what great harm students who engage in these obscene presentation of themselves cause the school on a daily basis as they walk the streets of Cantonments and encounter diplomats and prominent figures in our society. We all know that situated around the school is the highly revered British High Commission as well as estates and residential abodes of diplomats and ministers of the state and it is a shame to imagine the eye saws that they have to put up with seeing these young girls expose themselves to devourers in such a manner. Some of these men who can’t keep their trousers up and their libido under control tend to end up engaging some of these young girls which in the long run leads into sexual relationships that may only attract unwanted rippling effects like unwanted pregnancy and attraction of St Is. This act may go a long way to curtail the educational discourse of some of these girls. Now, tell me if that is not reckless living; that your parents or guardians should exert the stressful energy of enrolling you in a professional university like GIJ and you go home at the end of the day with a certificate in Pregnancy, Multiple Abortion Expertise or STIs.
                            

Ladies, if it is ‘links’ or connections that you seek to build by dressing that way (indecently) in order to attract the opposite sex of higher social standings and offer your bodies as leverage to be capitalized on in the future then there is a better option for you. Our noble institution now offers a Masters Degree program for older professionals who want to add more value to themselves but it is also an avenue for undergraduates to some extent explore their skills of networking and relationship building. Most of these Masters students are top managers and prominent figures in society who may hold the ticket to your immediate employment after school and I believe many of them wouldn’t hesitate to recommend or personally employ undergraduates they deem fit or cut for a job offer. Why, because they are passing through the system and they are observing and they are considering what fine communicators the system can churn out if only the students being taught take their lessons seriously.

So my dear lady, why not rather dress decently and put yourself across as a purposeful, serious minded and aimful person who wants to build a real time career for herself. You never know who may spot you and recommend you for a job offer that may be your breakthrough to becoming the next ‘Komla Dumor’ of our time (may his beautiful soul rest in perfect peace). Truth is, the men never consider indecently dressed ladies as wife material so why become a stress release object rather than a substantial and revered woman of virtue. And if you still hold on to the statement that wearing “crop tops, skimpy dresses and beach shorts on any occasion is my style” then my fellow lady you’re in the wrong place and pursuing the wrong profession and you need to rethink.
                      

Big ups to Dr. Wilberforce Dzisah and management for making known their clear stand on the matter and making efforts to put measures in place to curb the issue which was going way out of hand. The well-meaning stakeholders are beginning to experience some peace and serenity within and it is the hope of many that this rule will hold forever.

Phyliss N.L Lamptey

President, Yaa Asantewaa Hall
Level 400 PR A